Sobonfu Somé has joined the ancestors. I recently dug up her book Welcoming Spirit Home to reread her perspective on parenting and being a child.
I started unschooling my daughter and one of the arguments people who oppose my decision constantly bring up is “I never liked school, but I did it!”
Why is it that as adults we feel the need for our children to go through the awful things we did?!
I do not subscribe to that way of parenting, I believe that it is my responsibility as a parent to heal the wounds I am aware of so that I don’t impose them on my child. Children will go through their own shit, we don’t need to force our shit onto them.
I like Somé for many reasons, I like that her purpose, her gift was embedded in her culture but took her across the globe. I give thanks for you, your words and your spirit, Sobonfu Somé. Guide us to grow without oppression and exploitation. Individually and globally, Ase.
The book also has a chapter on making rituals work for you… something I NEED if I intend to follow through on my new year intentions!! Check out her works, let me know what you think, i’mma go read that chapter and get my rituals on.
Wise African Woman 